What is Imago Therapy?
Imago Therapy was created by Harville Hendrix, PhD, and Helen LaKellyHunt, PhD in the 1980’s and introduced through the New York Times Best-selling book “Getting the Love You Want.” The book proved to be a welcome breakthrough for many couples in their relationships. It provides tools and an understanding of the process many couples experience as “falling out of love.”
Imago is the Latin word for “image”. The theory presupposes that each of us has within an unconscious map that developed during our formative years of those situations we move towards or away from. It is a composite picture of the people who influenced you most at an early age. We unconsciously choose a “match” who has positive and negative traits similar to our caretakers/parents. In essence, it’s not a coincidence who you have attracted as your partner.
Imago states that your marriage itself is therapy; your partner is the best person to resolve the unhealed childhood pain, such as abandonment, rejection, smothering, shame, and helplessness which resurface in your marriage . These issues are generally at the core of what is causing pain and conflict in your relationship/marriage. Relationships are more than marriage; they are about a spiritual partnership, growth and healing.